‘I Felt Super Violated’: Men Wearing Meta Glasses on Dates Is an Instant Red Flag
‘I Felt Super Violated’: Men Wearing Meta Glasses on Dates Is an Instant Red Flag
“我感到极度被冒犯”：约会时佩戴 Meta 眼镜的男性已成为即刻触发的“红旗”警示
Courtney McAnuff was out of a year-long relationship in the summer of 2024 and starting to date again when she agreed to grab drinks with a potential suitor. 2024 年夏天，Courtney McAnuff 刚结束了一段长达一年的恋情，并开始重新尝试约会。当时，她答应与一位潜在的追求者去喝一杯。
They met at a bar in midtown Manhattan. He arrived wearing a baseball cap pulled low and sported a pair of black-framed glasses, she says. As conversation flowed, from discussions about navigating life in New York to past relationships, he mentioned that his glasses were Meta Ray-Bans. 他们在曼哈顿中城的一家酒吧见面。她说，对方戴着一顶压得很低的棒球帽，还戴着一副黑框眼镜。随着谈话的深入，从在纽约的生活到过去的感情经历，他提到自己戴的是 Meta Ray-Ban 智能眼镜。
“I wasn’t familiar with them,” McAnuff, a 28-year-old project manager who now lives in Toronto, tells WIRED. It was her first time seeing the smart glasses up close, which can record images and video from the wearer’s viewpoint. He let her try them on and even showed her a couple of videos that he’d taken previously, she says. “That was it. We stopped talking about it after that. I figured that was the end of the use.” “我当时并不了解这些眼镜，”现居多伦多、28 岁的项目经理 McAnuff 对《连线》（WIRED）杂志表示。这是她第一次近距离接触这种可以从佩戴者视角拍摄图像和视频的智能眼镜。她说，对方让她试戴了一下，甚至还给她看了几个之前拍摄的视频。“事情就是这样。之后我们没再提过这事。我以为这就是它的全部用途了。”
The next day, checking her Instagram, McAnuff noticed she’d been tagged in one of his story posts. To her surprise, it was footage of them at the bar and on the subway together, en route to a basketball game uptown. In the video, McAnuff is captured from an above angle, sitting across from her date who is holding a drinking glass; WIRED has seen screenshots of the footage. “I felt super violated,” McAnuff says. “Like, what if I don’t want everyone knowing what I’m up to? He felt so free to film me and post it. There was no conversation about it.” 第二天，McAnuff 在查看 Instagram 时发现自己被对方标记在了一条快拍（Story）中。令她惊讶的是，视频里记录了他们在酒吧以及一起乘坐地铁前往上城观看篮球赛的画面。视频中，McAnuff 被从上方角度拍摄，正坐在拿着酒杯的约会对象对面；《连线》杂志已经看到了该视频的截图。“我感到极度被冒犯，”McAnuff 说，“如果我不想让所有人知道我在做什么呢？他竟然如此随意地拍摄我并发布出来。我们之间根本没有讨论过这件事。”
Meta sold more than 7 million pairs of the Ray-Bans in 2025, as its smart glasses have infiltrated public spaces thanks to pranksters with dreams of viral fame, some of whom even film people while they’re at work. The phenomenon, which has also spread to pickup artists hitting on women, has earned the hardware the nickname “creep glasses.” 2025 年，Meta 售出了超过 700 万副 Ray-Ban 智能眼镜。由于一些梦想着走红的恶作剧者（其中一些甚至在人们工作时进行拍摄），这些智能眼镜已经渗透到了公共空间。这种现象也蔓延到了搭讪艺术家（PUA）身上，使得这款硬件获得了“变态眼镜”的绰号。
Among singles, and particularly women, Meta’s AI-powered eyewear has become a recurring nuisance, as people share a spreading unease about being covertly filmed on dates. 在单身人士，尤其是女性群体中，Meta 的人工智能眼镜已成为一种反复出现的困扰，人们对于在约会时被秘密拍摄感到越来越不安。
“Ban those glasses completely,” posted a young woman on Bluesky in August, writing that her date “leaned over to show me pictures he took of me I had no idea he was taking.” One TikToker claimed in a video after a date that she “immediately felt uncomfortable,” questioning why people are “so comfortable videoing everything. It’s a terrible way to portray yourself, wearing a fucking camera on your face and you’re sitting in my face.” “彻底禁止这些眼镜吧，”一位年轻女性八月份在 Bluesky 上发帖写道，她的约会对象“凑过来给我看他拍我的照片，而我根本不知道他在拍。”一位 TikTok 用户在约会后的视频中称，她“立刻感到不舒服”，并质疑为什么人们“如此习惯于拍摄一切。戴着一个该死的摄像头在脸上，还坐在我面前，这简直是展示自己的糟糕方式。”
In a Reddit post from August, users debated the ethics of the trend, wondering if it was OK to continue a date when someone showed up wearing them; in a separate thread, one person said they had ghosted a guy after realizing he’d worn the glasses on their date. “I didn’t notice until toward the end of the night. I kissed him while he was wearing the glasses,” they said. In July, a man was put under investigation in Seoul, South Korea, for allegedly filming four women he had gone out with and later uploading clips to social media, according to The Korea Herald. 在八月份的一篇 Reddit 帖子中，用户们讨论了这一趋势的道德问题，想知道当对方戴着这种眼镜出现时，是否还应该继续约会；在另一个讨论串中，有人表示在意识到对方约会时戴着眼镜后，直接将其“冷处理”（ghosted）了。“我直到晚上快结束时才注意到。他戴着眼镜的时候我还亲了他，”他们说道。据《韩国先驱报》报道，今年七月，韩国首尔一名男子因涉嫌拍摄四名约会对象并将视频上传至社交媒体而受到调查。
In many regards, dating has been reframed by our dependency on technology. Apps connect people. Chatbots are used for all sorts of things these days: as wingmen and for role-play. Smartphone cameras capture important moments together. But while a phone being held up to someone’s face gives them a clear opportunity to object, smart glasses largely erase that opportunity. (Meta’s glasses do have a front-facing LED that switches on when the glasses are recording, but the light is the only warning, and it can be disabled by hacking the hardware.) 在许多方面，我们对技术的依赖重塑了约会方式。应用程序连接着人们；聊天机器人如今被用于各种用途：作为僚机或进行角色扮演；智能手机摄像头记录着重要的共同瞬间。然而，当手机举到某人面前时，对方有明确的机会表示反对，但智能眼镜在很大程度上消除了这种机会。（Meta 的眼镜确实有一个前置 LED 灯，在录制时会亮起，但这盏灯是唯一的警告，而且可以通过破解硬件将其禁用。）
For McAnuff, the trend is about more than privacy instructions. She was worried about what would happen with the footage afterward. “He didn’t ask if I wanted to be recorded or if I wanted my face uploaded. And now he has this video file of me forever. It’s definitely a big trust issue,” she says. 对 McAnuff 来说，这种趋势不仅仅是隐私准则的问题。她担心这些录像后续会发生什么。“他没有问我是否愿意被录制，也没有问我是否愿意让我的脸被上传。现在他永远拥有了关于我的视频文件。这绝对是一个巨大的信任问题，”她说。
In a 2025 YouGov survey of US adults focused on factors contributing to successful relationships, trust ranked the highest, with 94 percent of respondents categorizing it as “very important.” 在 2025 年一项针对美国成年人、关注成功关系影响因素的 YouGov 调查中，信任度排名最高，94% 的受访者将其归类为“非常重要”。
Gary Lewandowski, a psychology professor at Monmouth University whose research focuses on the science of romantic connection, says adding covert cameras to the mix will only make building trust harder. He says beyond posting for the ’gram, a number of factors could be driving men to do this. The most logical, non-creepy reason may be tied to post-date analysis, in that the glasses can help men identify blind spots around their own behavior. 蒙茅斯大学心理学教授 Gary Lewandowski 的研究专注于浪漫关系的科学，他表示，在约会中加入隐蔽摄像头只会让建立信任变得更加困难。他说，除了为了发 Instagram，还有许多因素可能促使男性这样做。最合乎逻辑、非变态的原因可能与“约会后分析”有关，即眼镜可以帮助男性识别自己行为中的盲点。
“A lot of men out there are eternal optimizers. They want better, more efficient ways of doing things, so reviewing game tape allows them to learn from mistakes,” Lewandowski says. “But I do wonder if some are doing it to build a case instead of a connection—why they’re right and the other person is wrong—or to help better identify red flags.” That type of surveillance “makes the date less about getting to know each other and more about fact gathering,” he adds. “很多男性是永恒的优化者。他们想要更好、更有效率的做事方式，所以回顾‘比赛录像’让他们能从错误中学习，”Lewandowski 说，“但我确实怀疑，有些人这样做是为了‘建立证据’而不是建立联系——比如证明自己是对的而对方是错的，或者为了更好地识别‘红旗’信号。”他补充说，这种监视“让约会不再是为了相互了解，而变成了收集事实。”
The trend has also reanimated discussions around consent when it comes to dating. Yue Xu, cohost of the Dateable podcast, believes new social norms are needed to keep up with our evolving tech. “It’s bringing in a third party, which is disturbing. It just shows that this person lacks respect for the integrity and privacy of the date,” Xu says, adding that she fears that the glasses are triggering a future “where people have no more anonymity.” 这一趋势也重新引发了关于约会中“同意”问题的讨论。《Dateable》播客的联合主持人 Yue Xu 认为，我们需要新的社会规范来跟上不断发展的技术。“这引入了第三方，令人不安。这恰恰表明此人缺乏对约会完整性和隐私的尊重，”Xu 说。她还补充道，她担心这些眼镜正在开启一个“人们不再拥有匿名性”的未来。
Concerns have intensified as issues about the device have continued to make headlines. Meta and EssilorLuxottica, which owns Ray-Ban, are facing a class action lawsuit alleging that they captured and stored users’ private data without consent. This month, Semafor reported that Meta disabled the recording function for thousands of users who tampered with the light that notifies people that the Meta Ray-Bans are filming. Following the addition of an unreleased face-recognition feature called NameTag to its eyewear earlier this year, revealed by a WIRED investigation, Meta scrubbed the code from its app in June and is facing another proposed… 随着有关该设备的问题不断登上头条，人们的担忧也在加剧。Meta 和拥有 Ray-Ban 的依视路陆逊梯卡（EssilorLuxottica）正面临集体诉讼，指控其在未经同意的情况下捕获并存储了用户的私人数据。本月，Semafor 报道称，Meta 禁用了数千名篡改了“录制提示灯”的用户的录制功能。在《连线》杂志调查揭露 Meta 今年早些时候为其眼镜添加了一项名为 NameTag 的未发布人脸识别功能后，Meta 于六月从其应用程序中删除了相关代码，并正面临另一项拟议的……