Dunking on Dating App Profiles Is Content Gold. People Are Getting Sick of It

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Save this storySave this storyEvangelizing to his 512,000 TikTok followers occasionally requires that dating coach Chad Franklin post the private communications of his clients, who pay upwards of $5,000 for his services.

为了向他 51.2 万名 TikTok 粉丝传道，约会教练查德·富兰克林（Chad Franklin）有时需要发布其客户的私人通讯内容，这些客户为他的服务支付了超过 5,000 美元的费用。

In September, Franklin shared a DM conversation in which a woman implied she couldn’t afford an Uber with the text overlay “Don’t date POOR women!!!” That same month, he uploaded a video of a client’s successful text exchange on Hinge where they talked about the need to “flirt over some margaritas.” In the clip, Franklin can barely contain himself, noting that it was the type of tête-à-tête that gets his “dick hard”: “This is what men are looking for. We lead, you follow.”

9 月，富兰克林分享了一段私信对话，其中一名女性暗示自己付不起优步车费，他配上了“别和穷女人约会！！！”的文字。同月，他上传了一段客户在 Hinge 上成功互动的视频，两人谈论需要“喝着玛格丽特酒调情”。在视频中，富兰克林几乎无法抑制自己的情绪，称这种私下交谈让他“兴奋不已”：“这就是男人想要的。我们主导，你们跟随。”

Franklin posts under the alias @DefundSimping, and has made it his mission to help straight, career-driven guys in their “post-breakup, post-divorce” era undo their “simp” behavior, which he defines as putting women on a pedestal or giving them too much attention.

富兰克林以 @DefundSimping 的化名发帖，他的使命是帮助那些处于“分手或离婚后”时期的异性恋、事业型男性改掉“舔狗”（simp）行为，他将这种行为定义为将女性捧上神坛或给予她们过多的关注。

I reached out to the 30-year-old content creator because I wanted to talk about Hinge’s decision to start testing screenshot protection in India. The announcement set off a firestorm of reaction across social media last week, rekindling a debate around digital etiquette, privacy, and shame.

我联系了这位 30 岁的创作者，因为我想谈谈 Hinge 决定在印度开始测试截图保护功能一事。这一公告上周在社交媒体上引发了轩然大波，重新点燃了关于数字礼仪、隐私和羞辱的辩论。

“​​Everyone who’s downloaded the app has seen the debauchery and the drama,” Franklin says, explaining that being online in 2026 simply means there is a chance you will become the day’s main character whether you intended to or not. “People are aware that they could be the next haha moment, but that doesn’t mean they deserve it.”

“每个下载过该应用的人都见过其中的放荡和闹剧，”富兰克林说。他解释道，在 2026 年上网意味着无论你是否有意，都有可能成为当天的“主角”。“人们意识到自己可能会成为下一个笑料，但这并不意味着他们活该如此。”

TikTokers, X accounts like @hingestrange, and other online creators have built entire brands out of screenshotting and sharing bizarre dating profile prompts, cringe pickup lines, or red flags found while swiping. But critics of the trend argue it’s a form of public humiliation that should end.

TikTok 用户、像 @hingestrange 这样的 X 账号以及其他网络创作者，通过截图并分享奇怪的约会资料提示、令人尴尬的搭讪语或滑动时发现的危险信号，建立了自己的品牌。但这一趋势的批评者认为，这是一种应该被终结的公开羞辱形式。

In response to news of Hinge revoking profile screenshotting ability in India, some responded with relief.

针对 Hinge 在印度取消个人资料截图功能的消息，一些人感到如释重负。

“People on here kinda turned being on a dating app into both an extension of the panopticon and a window into their own personal penchant for cruelty,” writer Tres Dean noted on X. “I actually think this might be the first ethical development in online dating in years if not ever.”

“这里的人们把使用约会软件变成了一种全景监狱的延伸，也是窥探他们个人残忍倾向的窗口，”作家特雷斯·迪恩（Tres Dean）在 X 上写道。“我实际上认为这可能是网络约会多年来，甚至是有史以来第一次符合道德的发展。”

X user @randy_mossad added, “Better for a million cheaters to go unpunished than for one regular person looking for love to get humiliated by leaked chats.”

X 用户 @randy_mossad 补充道：“宁可让一百万个骗子逍遥法外，也不要让一个寻找真爱的普通人因聊天记录泄露而受辱。”

In a TikTok video, Florida-based creator Kiara said she understands the change despite having posted screenshots to shame men who were hypersexual or “super disrespectful” in their profiles. “But I’ve noticed now that we’re in an ‘I hate men’ apocalypse … women are posting men’s profiles simply because they’re not just not attracted to them,” she continued, describing the latter as being “wrong” and “mean.”

在一段 TikTok 视频中，佛罗里达州的创作者基亚拉（Kiara）表示，尽管她曾发布截图来羞辱那些在资料中表现得过度性化或“极其不尊重人”的男性，但她理解这一改变。“但我现在注意到，我们正处于一个‘厌男’的末日……女性发布男性的资料仅仅是因为她们对他们不感兴趣，”她继续说道，并将后者描述为“错误”和“刻薄”的行为。

At a moment when the apps feel broken for so many people, there seems to be a desire for more private, less performative forms of dating and communication.

在许多人觉得这些应用已经失效的时刻，人们似乎渴望更私密、更少表演性质的约会和交流方式。

While apps like Raya and Grindr already include screenshot protection, the India pilot is the first iteration of it for Hinge, which will block screenshots on surfaces containing personally identifiable profile information, including Discover, Likes You, and Standouts.

虽然 Raya 和 Grindr 等应用已经包含了截图保护功能，但印度的试点是 Hinge 的首次尝试，该功能将阻止在包含个人身份识别信息的界面（包括“发现”、“喜欢你”和“精选”）上进行截图。

The company confirms to WIRED that testing in India is part of an initiative to help singles build trust among other users and with the platform. The insights will determine whether and how Hinge introduces the feature in additional markets, but there are no current plans to greenlight screenshot protection in US or other regions.

该公司向《连线》（WIRED）证实，在印度的测试旨在帮助单身人士在用户之间以及与平台之间建立信任。这些洞察将决定 Hinge 是否以及如何将该功能引入其他市场，但目前还没有计划在美国或其他地区批准截图保护功能。

A 2025 study in the Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication suggested that screenshots create “privacy turbulence” by allowing a recipient to permanently store and redistribute private conversations without the original sender’s knowledge or consent, noting that the screenshot feature eliminates a shared boundary of control and strips away context.

2025 年发表在《计算机中介传播杂志》（Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication）上的一项研究表明，截图会造成“隐私动荡”，因为它允许接收者在未经原始发送者知情或同意的情况下永久存储和重新分发私人对话，并指出截图功能消除了共同的控制边界，剥离了语境。

But for some women in particular, screenshotting profiles has become a necessary precaution when vetting potential suitors. “Privacy’s in tension with safety. Screenshots can document inappropriate behavior or allow someone to check in with a friend before meeting a stranger,” says Lizzie Li, a communications researcher, who adds that communities like Are We Dating the Same Guy? grew partly out of women sharing screenshots to address safety concerns.

但对于一些女性来说，截图个人资料已成为筛选潜在约会对象时的必要预防措施。“隐私与安全之间存在张力。截图可以记录不当行为，或者让某人在见陌生人之前与朋友核实情况，”传播学研究员莉齐·李（Lizzie Li）说。她补充道，像“我们在约会同一个男人吗？”（Are We Dating the Same Guy?）这样的社区，部分原因就是女性为了解决安全顾虑而分享截图。

Asked whether the company has an obligation to prevent users from having their profiles turned into public content—30 million people currently use the app—a Hinge spokesperson tells WIRED that screenshot protection, along with Comment Filter and Did This Bother You?, is “another way we’re exploring how to help daters control how and where personal details are shared.” Singles will still be able to screenshot their messages with other matches if they want to report an account for potential safety concerns, affording women an extra layer of defense on dating apps where they disproportionately experience harassment and privacy violations. According to Hinge’s community guidelines, harassment, bullying, and intimidation are prohibited.

当被问及公司是否有义务防止用户的个人资料被变成公开内容（目前有 3000 万人使用该应用）时，Hinge 发言人告诉《连线》，截图保护功能，连同“评论过滤”和“这困扰你了吗？”功能，是“我们正在探索的另一种方式，旨在帮助约会者控制个人详细信息分享的方式和地点。”如果单身人士想要举报账户以解决潜在的安全问题，他们仍然可以对与其他匹配对象的聊天记录进行截图，这为女性在约会应用上提供了额外的防御层，因为她们不成比例地遭受骚扰和隐私侵犯。根据 Hinge 的社区准则，骚扰、欺凌和恐吓是被禁止的。

“When you are a bystander, it is fairly obvious that a privacy violation is occurring and most people would not want it to happen to them. At the same time, discomfort has not stopped the behavior,” says Alexis Ingber, an assistant professor at Syracuse University whose research focuses on privacy and emerging tech. “Dating-profile dunking reflects a broader sense of entitlement to others’ data.”

“当你是一个旁观者时，很明显隐私侵犯正在发生，大多数人都不希望这种事发生在自己身上。与此同时，不适感并没有阻止这种行为，”雪城大学助理教授亚历克西斯·英伯（Alexis Ingber）说，她的研究重点是隐私和新兴技术。“对约会资料的嘲讽反映出一种对他人数据更广泛的权利感。”

But Franklin, who has a knack for speaking in clip-ready one-liners, doesn’t believe dating apps have a duty to protect users from becoming a punch line on social media. “If you enter the dragon’s den, you may get bit by the dragon,” he tells me.

但富兰克林擅长说出适合剪辑成短视频的金句，他不认为约会应用有义务保护用户不成为社交媒体上的笑柄。“如果你进入龙潭虎穴，你可能会被龙咬伤，”他告诉我。

Still, with 20 clients on his roster, he says he does his best to block “every name, lip, face, and eye, trying to keep people private” when posting screenshots, because he understands that people are “scared of getti

尽管如此，他手头有 20 位客户，他说自己在发布截图时会尽力遮挡“每一个名字、嘴唇、脸部和眼睛，试图保护人们的隐私”，因为他理解人们“害怕被……”